It is perfectly normal to desire a particular experience in life. For some people it is an experience of having a daughter. High levels of grief and loss can occur when you find out that you will not experience having a daughter. You may have tried every natural method to conceive a daughter from diet, acidity testing, herbs, and yet a baby boy arrives instead. You may have even done gender selection IVF without success. This devastating and conflicting pain can feel unbearable. You may have a new baby boy on the way but you are broken inside to not have your dream of your daughter fulfilled. Your baby boy is healthy and well but you feel an ache in your heart. You may be walking through isles of baby clothes seeing the cutest girl clothes and toys that you won’t experience with your daughter. You may walk around pretending to the world that all is ok. But inside you may be grieving that you don’t have your little girl. This pain is profound and it can feel like not many people understand or even relate. On top of this grief there can be added pressure of feeling bad that you have the grief in the first place. There are so many unhelpful comments people can make when this is discussed. Some can include comments like ‘you need to be grateful for even having a child’ or ‘you poor thing you have all boys’. This definitely adds to feelings of shame and even anger. You have every right to want a little girl. Remember you are allowed to feel hurt and intense pain for not having your dream fulfilled. People can feel intense grief if the desired gender is not experienced. Some people may not value the experience of being a parent to a daughter as much. It is very normal to have a desire for a particular gender and it does not mean you are ungrateful and that you ‘should’ be satisfied with any gender. Some people hold onto the grief of not having a daughter their whole life. This grief can impact both men and women very intensely. This can result in many couples having so many more children than they ever wanted or can cope with to keep trying for a girl. It can become obsessive for some people. The drive and determination for that daughter. So many women have their life taken over by reading forums and any piece of information that helps conceive that girl. It is like a carrot dangled in front of you where you feel a sense of hope and bliss if you only have your daughter. Your internal dissatisfaction and pain can also have a profound impact on your sons’ life. If your child hears any negative gender related comments, and kids are amazing at picking up on the smallest cues, this can result in feeling internal shame. The feeling they don’t know why they are not good enough, not okay or faulty. This level of damage can last a lifetime. Life is so much more fulfilling if you don’t have to live with the disappointment, regret and dissatisfaction. This program is designed to help you let go, heal and move forward.
WHO IS THIS PROGRAM FOR?
This program can assist if you have grief due to not having a daughter. Some examples may include:
- You will not continue trying for a daughter
- You have just found out that you are having a boy and you are not going to have any more children
- You have all boys and will not be in a position to have any more children
- You have given birth to your first boy recently and you will not have any more children
- You have given birth to another boy after having all boys and this is your final child
- You have older children and still have grief reactions from not having your daughter
- You have all sons and now grandsons and no granddaughter
- You have tried gender selection IVF without success
You will learn about what grief is, the different stages of grief and the common symptoms people display when faced with grief. It is very reassuring to understand what is happening to you and the grieving process.
PART 2 – LEARNING TO RELEASE PAINFUL EMOTIONS SAFELY
You will learn strategies to manage emotional distress and grounding steps to bring yourself emotionally back into a safe place.
PART 3 – DESCRIBING YOUR JOURNEY
This part is made up of a series of in-depth questions which allow you to process the journey of not having a daughter.
PART 4 – DELVING INTO THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANTED WITH YOUR DAUGHTER
This part focusses on the relationship you imagined with your daughter. You will have the opportunity to explore your hopes and dreams of the daughter you wanted.
PART 5 – EXPRESSING FEELINGS
It is important to be able to express how you are feeling. Anger, sadness and guilt are some key feelings that you will be able to express here.
PART 6 – RESOLVING YOUR INNER CONFLICT
It is very powerful to express what you are still holding onto and to resolve the inner conflict. This part guides you to express your pain and release any emotions.
PART 7 – THE LETTING GO PROCESS
This section focuses on letting go methods in order to explore the next chapters of your life.
PART 8 – GOAL SETTING
Setting new goals for your life is a powerful start to your future and it prevents being stuck or feeling hopeless and helpless. This can prevent feelings of depression as it guides you to new goals you will design for the next steps of your life.
HOW LONG DO I HAVE TO COMPLETE THE PROGRAM?
This program is self-paced. You have one year to complete the program from purchase date. You have the option to request an extension if required.
WHO DEVELOPED THE PROGRAM?
This program has been developed by Clinical Psychologist, Edyta Stepien, who has over 22 years of experience in the profession treating and assisting people to transform their lives. To find out more about Edyta, CLICK HERE.
HOW TO PURCHASE THIS PROGRAM
To purchase this program click the Add To Cart button above. All prices displayed are in AUD$. If you live outside of Australia your nominated currency will be displayed on checkout.