Moving on From
a Divorce
Understanding what divorce really involves — and finding a path through the grief toward healing.
When a relationship reaches its end
When you decide to end a marriage, it is usually because the relationship has broken down and is beyond repair. Legally ending a marriage means getting a divorce. Sometimes it is one partner, more than the other, that wants a divorce. On other occasions, it is a mutual and amicable decision between both parties.
No matter the circumstances, going through a divorce can be an extremely emotional period for both parties. The concept of ending a marriage can bring high levels of grief and pain, and it can take months or years before the decision is made and acted on. During that time, sadness, loneliness, anger, anxiety, frustration and hurt can build until the relationship ultimately breaks down beyond a point where either party wants to work on the reasons why they ended up there in the first place.
Divorce is final
Going through the legal process to seek a divorce is the final step in ending a marriage. However, most marriage breakdowns happen months or even years before the divorce is finalized through the court system. The process can be costly and stressful, usually involving the division of financial assets, custody arrangements where children are involved, and spousal maintenance provisions.
Dealing with lawyers and courts can feel cold and bitter, but it may be the only option left when the relationship is over. Once the courts grant the divorce and both parties sign off, the marriage is legally finalized, and a reversal of this decision is highly unlikely once the paperwork is signed.
Coping methods versus true healing
The period after a divorce can feel very different from one person to the next. Some feel elated that the marriage has legally ended and that they can move on with their lives. Others feel deep pain and sadness — and it is usually the latter that most people experience, which can lead to grief requiring professional support.
Ideally, a person will have plenty of support from family and friends following a divorce, and having someone to talk to can help. However, if that support is limited to simply venting about the issue, the grief can remain stuck with you. Unless you are working on targeting the grief with real strategies and methods, it can stay with you for a long time and hold you back from moving forward and being the best version of yourself.
A step-by-step path to process your grief
From Heartbreak to Healing is a self-paced program developed to help you move on from a divorce or relationship breakdown by directly targeting the grief at its source.
The program was developed by Clinical Psychologist Edyta Stepien, who has over two decades of experience in the psychology profession and has assisted thousands of clients in her private practice. Edyta first built the framework for this grief program in 2002 and refined it over years of working with individuals experiencing relationship grief, eventually realizing it could be completed entirely at home, in your own time, without face-to-face sessions.
The program is made up of 10 interactive parts, with questions and exercises tailored to help you delve deep into resolving your grief. If you are continuing to live with unresolved grief from a previous relationship breakdown, explore the program below.
Edyta Stepien
Edyta is a Clinical Psychologist based in Australia with over two decades of experience in the profession, treating and assisting people to transform their lives. She holds a Master of Clinical Psychology and is fully registered with the Psychology Board of Australia (AHPRA).
Edyta developed Evoke Mind’s self-paced programs to help people process grief and loss in the comfort of their own home, drawing on decades of clinical experience working with adults navigating relationship breakdowns, bereavement, and other significant life losses.
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